Worry Wart

I believe most mom's worry about their children and their roll as a mother most of the time.  I am definitely among that group.  Right now I am trying to keep from getting overcome with worry regarding my 7 year old, CM.  He occupies more than a third of my worry.  He is the most loving, heartfelt, child but he also has so many emotional and educational struggles. 
So CM's teacher emailed me a couple days ago and told me she would be meeting with some other staff at school regarding CM.  They would be discussing his progress and plans for next year.  She said she wanted to meet with me after their meeting.  I can't say I'm surprised but still a bit upset.  I know he struggles in school.  I know he is behind.  As I read the email though a worry started creeping up in me....is she going to tell me CM should repeat 1st grade????  Panic sets in.  I don't want my son to repeat a grade.  It breaks me heart to even think that it could be possible.  Last year we struggled and I think his staff considered holding him back.  Again, this isn't a surprise but still tough to think about.  I emailed his teacher and asked if she is considering holding him back.  Her response, "this is something we will want to wait to discuss".  To me that means they are at least considering it. 
I know CMs family history (at least half of it anyway).  I know CM has always struggled in school.  I know I work hard to help him.  I know his diagnosis of ADD makes learning very difficult.  Still I feel like I am failing myself.  I should be doing more for him.  I should be able to prevent this.  I should have worked more with him.  Mind you, no one has told me he will need to repeat 1st grade!  The worries consume me.  I think of how this will affect CM.  Will it trouble him all his life?  I struggled in school.  I worked hard and still struggled and didn't have ADD so I know it must hurt him already but what would a repeat do to him? 
I try to talk to Matt about it but I don't get much worry relief from him at this time.  He isn't ready to think about it.  Probably smart.  Why worry about something that hasn't occurred!  In the past Matt has said if our kids have to repeat a grade he would definitely change schools.  Only now that we are in public school (he used to say this when we went to Catholic school).  When I asked him about this last night he said "well there isn't much choices of where to send him now).  We could send him back to Catholic school, we could try the Christian school, or I could homeschool.  He immediately told me "No" to home school.  He said I don't have the patience.  He is probably right but I want to believe I could.  I want to do anything I need to for the best of my children.  I need to do it.
For now I'm trying to stay calm.  I'm trying not to get ahead of the process and I'm looking to a few close friends who can provide me with emotional support.  I asked the teacher to move the process along as quickly as she could for my sake.  Not knowing is worse than knowing.  I can't make plans and consider options if I don't know.  The only thing I can do is try not to worry and continue to work with and encourage CM.  Parenthood is so much tougher than ever expected.  Praying that it all works out.